Everyday stuff

There are times in our live's where we'll be thrust into doing something we dont't want to do. We even try to tell ourselves : "HEY!!, this is what I want to do. . ." but even so, in the back of our mind, were thinking craap, this is going to be bad, this is not what I want to do. As to why we do the things we do when we really don't want to, yeah we all know it, it's called Peer Pressure. We all go through it. We do not like it. . .obviously.
What I see when people go through this, all I see is fake people. It's on both sides actaully; from the pressurer and the pressuree. Their fake on so many levels, by this I'm saying that the pressurer is someone doing something morally wrong and making the pressuree feel bad. . .by guilt tripping them if you will. If not guilt tripping them, then making them feel horrible for every thing that they do or by any means necessary. But then you have the pressuree, who is just as bad. They are actaully letting someone influence who they are and what they do. They can not stand up for themselves and just say NO!
Yes, I do understand that this is typical, this happends to a lot of poeple, but does anyone ever stop to think how these decisions affect the people around them? I mean, really? These decisions can cripple someone emotionally, even though one may not see it, but it happens. It hurts. . .everyone becomes a victim of this at point, ( the pressurer, pressuree, and getting hurt by the both of them).
So why does this happen? Are their just jackasses born every minute and they stay that way all their lives? Even though this concept would be much easier to grasp, that is not the case. TOO DAMN BAD TO!!! That would make life a whole lot easier right? Well to get to the point, the one who is doing the pressuring, it all has to do with the sense of having power and control and manipulating someone! This to is obvious and makes more sense, but it gets even more complex. . .
Someone who is doing the pressuring, they pick their victim by seeing who is more vulnerable and has no will power what so ever. They are looking for someone who is shy, not willing to speak up for themselves, and for someone who cannot just say NO. Once the victim is picked, that is when the bad stuff starts to happen.
The pressurer, is someone who in fact, are actaully vulnerable as the pressuree. But they can have that sense of control over them because they are not as vulnerable as the pressuree. Their simply cowards, and need some form of reassurance about themselves, and by peer pressuring someone else, they can get that feeling they need. It's like they are feeding on this and it's notihng but a game to them.
This is something I see a lot, as do a lot of other people I'm guessing. I also know that I will be seeing this a lot more in my future job, which is becoming a psychologist. So in my studies right now, I'm learning even more as to why people do the dumb crap they do. It's all interesting.